Pointers In Dealing With Insecurities In A Relationship

By Iva Cannon


People are doing things which they are not usually doing when in love. They are showing their romantic sides and exhibiting sweet gestures. They are even exchanging sweet words with their lovers. They want to be spending quality time with one another always.

However, several people are not experiencing complete happiness in their own partnerships. They are usually having insecurities. An individual can be following these tips in dealing with insecurities in a relationship.

Different people have different personalities which is why they also interact with their partners in a different way. For this, the individuals should not compare their current partnerships with their past ones. If their past partners know how to cook meals, they should not expect that their current ones know the same. This way, they will not disappoint themselves.

Everyone has his or her own ideal partner. However, the person must not be looking for a perfect partnership. This type of partnership does not exist. The result of this situation depends on the amount of work both sides will be placing into their partnership. Both parties should be making compromises for them to be living harmoniously together.

In any partnership, communication is important. Communication should be clear between the individuals so that mind reading can be prevented. For instance, if stressful situations are experienced at their jobs and they do not like to be disturbed by their partners at certain times, such should be communicated. Their significant others should not be shout out. This way, negative assumptions will not be made by their partners.

The persons should focus on positive things and not the negative ones. They should see the good things that may happen on their lives. If they encounter hardships or difficulties, they should hope for good results afterwards. For instance, if their partners have jobs in other countries, they should think that after some time, they will come back and both of them can share the fruits of their labors.

He should be avoiding extreme jealousy which could be leading him to controlling the partnership. He should be allowing his partner of mingling with other persons, whether men or women. He should be giving her the freedom of choosing the movie they could be watching together, meals they could be eating together, or the outfit she will be wearing during their date, among others.

The person must always be seeking self assurance. He must be depending on himself more. While it is true that he needs someone to cuddle or share passionate hugs with, or talk to romantically, he must not be depending on others. This situation will be making him clingy to his partner even if this partnership is not healthy at all.

Most importantly, they should avoid paranoia. Paranoia and jealousy go hand in hand. They should not assume that their partners will leave them for other persons. The individuals should not read the cellphone or email messages of their partners without their permissions. This way, they can still show respect to their privacy. Most of the times, paranoids only create scenarios out of fear.




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